Advice for dating couples
To enter into any relationship with the expectation that it will be the key to a happy life is to place an idolatrous, unhealthy, and unrealistic expectation on it.
This expectation will only suffocate any potential for the relationship to grow in a healthy way.
When we stop looking to a relationship to be the key that will unlock the potential of our lives, we open up space for healthy relationships to emerge into what they are meant to be. “Christians should only date Christians.” That opinion is repeated in countless books on Christian dating, and yet from my point of view it’s just not a helpful way of approaching things.
We believe that love, peace, and joy will flood into our lives and give us our “happily ever after.” Falling in love and being in love is awesome, but if we think a relationship is what will save us from loneliness, low self-esteem, and purposelessness, we’re just wrong.
No matter how good, godly, and healthy a relationship may be, it cannot fully satisfy the deeper spiritual hungers within you.
You know it’s unhealthy, and chances are it’s negatively impacting every area of your life, including your relationship with God.
You should talk to a friend, parent, or pastor you trust who can help you transition out of your relationship. This piece of advice often comes from one of my high school students when we brainstorm relationship advice together as a group.
Knowing Jesus intimately is critical if we want to know what authentic, life-giving expressions of love, sex, and relationships look like.